Sierra Unraveled

Summer Break

I didn't want to leave you hanging for the summer. I just wanted to do a quick life check. For you and for me. I'm hoping to return in the fall, but we'll just have to see what this season brings. I haven't shared much of my private life lately because I wanted to shine light on others who have experienced trauma in some way and have still become successful. They have also found their purpose. It is equally as important for you to find yours, too. I thank you for tuning in this season. I pray you learned something about strength, courage, forgiveness, hope, and love. Feel free to share this with anyone you know who might need some inspiration today. Whatever you choose, just know I support you in your healing journey, where ever that may be, I'm always here if you need help.

Love and hugs!

 

Music: Ipanema by kantubeats x Late Night Instrumental by episodicbeats

You’re Not Crazy with Jeanette Menter

Born in Germany, raised in the Midwest, Jeanette began writing for pay at the age of 16. After high school she went on to college hoping to become a journalist but that didn’t work out due to being involved with an abusive man. This eventually made her decide to buy a one way train ticket to California.

She eventually married, had two beautiful daughters but, after twelve years, she divorced. In the years to follow she met a terrific man, and they married in 1993.

 

Along the way, she began a real estate career, worked for various marketing companies but never felt satisfied. A decision for them to move back to the Midwest, for family reasons, opened doors for her to begin her first love, writing, again. She wrote a weekly column in a newspaper, made regular contributions for two magazines, and even got her degree in Communications at 54. That is also the time she began writing her book, “You’re Not Crazy - You’re Codependent”.

 

In the midst of life, she continues her search to becoming her best self, healing from past hurts and living authentically.

 

In this episode, you guessed it, we talk about codependency. We delve into why it occurs, what happens when it goes unchecked, and how to move past it. Jeanette should be an inspiration for all of us to heal. There's absolutely no reason why you can't. We'll likely have codependent tendencies for the rest of our lives, but that doesn't mean we have to give in. 

 

If you enjoyed this episode and you're ready to begin your journey to living a peace life, check out Jeanette's book on Amazon. 

 

https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Not-Crazy-Codependent-Addiction/dp/0615533469/ref=asc_df_0615533469/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312695266310&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=8188502122676120413&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016919&hvtargid=pla-570674447160&psc=1

 

Blog: https://codependencycentral.blogspot.com 

 

Intro and Outro Music: Sleepless by Fame J 

https://www.beatstars.com/beat/sleepless-lofi-x-jazzhop-type-beat-10640443 

A True Story of Abuse and Betrayal at Guantanamo Bay and What Comes Afterwards with Lara Sabanosh

Caged is the true never-before-told other side of an international, headline story that captivated audiences around the world in 2015. From the Today Show, NBC News, small-town newspapers, to Al Jazeera, everyone told their own version of the events that left Lara and her daughters exiled, the Commanding Officer of Guantanamo Bay’s Naval Base dismissed, and her husband dead. 

 

In today's episode we discuss Lara's experience with domestic violence. We talk about the difficulty of processing grief, the reality of intimate partner violence, the lack of resources women have to handle these situations, what it was like to live a double life, her career, and how her daughter's have flourished after living through rugged life circumstances.

 

Caged on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/Caged-True-Story-Abuse-Betrayal/dp/163195539X

Caged at Barnes and Noble:

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/caged-lara-m-sabanosh/1139397763 

Contact Lara:

https://www.larasabanosh.com 

Facebook: @LaraSabanoshCaged (Lara Sabanosh)

InstaGram: larasabanosh

Twitter: @LaraSabanosh 

 

Resources discussed:

https://www.womenslaw.org 

 

Outro music: Pumpin\' by dhedbeats

https://www.beatstars.com/dhedbeats 

 

 

 

 

Healing from Your Mother’s Abuse with Leann Evans

In this episode I speak with life coach Leann Evans about her experience with narcissistic abuse. We discuss techniques she uses to cope, what she's learned about herself, how she's managed to go no contact with her mother, and how healing herself has had an amazingly, positive impact on her relationship with her children. Narcissism is often talked about in today's society, but it's hardly understood because most narcissists will never get diagnosed with the personality disorder. However, the more we share our experiences, the better we will understand. I hope you learn as much as I did!

 

Contact Ms. Leann:

Email: info@leannevanscoaching.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/donm.isurvived/ 

IG: @donm.isurvived 

 

Intro & Outro beat: Thinking of you by Zver https://www.beatstars.com/beat/thinking-of-you-6751174

Surviving and Thriving with Nakira Howard

In this episode I have survivor, Nakira Howard, a single mommy from Detroit who was at the mercy of her ex boyfriend's hands in January 2021, years after they had been separated. This time when the incident occurred their daughter was present. We discuss how she co-parents with her ex-abuser, how she's coped as a survivor, and how her life has been since escaping. There are so many good tips in this episode, be ready to take notes!

 

Article referenced : https://www.clickondetroit.com/news/local/2021/10/25/detroit-woman-shares-her-domestic-violence-experience-to-encourage-others-to-seek-the-help/ 

 

Michigan's Crime Victim Program: 

https://www.michigan.gov/mdhhs/0,5885,7-339-71548_54783_54853_54855---,00.html 

Happy Birthday Jesus!

Hey yall! Just wanted to give you a little of my spiritual wisdom before my next interview drops. I'm laughing because I don't believe I possess any spiritual wisdom, but I might. Praise God, because I definitely have the Holy Ghost.

 

In this episode, I talk about how I've come to terms with my sin, how in the world I still remain calm co-parenting with my ex-abuser, and how I cope with the holidays after my family has been torn apart. Literally. Scripture is the only answer for me. 

 

Co-parenting videos I reference in the episode:

Tips for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist or Difficult Person

Stephanie Lyn Coaching

https://youtu.be/yB66HZKWX_I 

Co-parenting with a Narcissist Dr. Ramani Durvasula

https://youtu.be/AHL_A0kodlY 

 

Online Support Groups:

Domestic Abuse Support Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1032485490166320/

 

Domestic Violence Support Group for Women

https://www.facebook.com/groups/560772291129322

 

Single Parent Sanity 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleParentSanity 

 

Music: Posthumous Production x Reyo Beats

 

 

 

We Are Stronger Together with Amy Butcher

In this episode I have the amazing Amy Butcher, the author of Mothertrucker and Visiting Hours, and award winning essayist. We discuss the release of her latest book, which discusses the uncertainties of intimate partner violence, the resilience of women, and how we are stronger together. Listen up as we honor one of her dear friends and remind women that abuse can occur in different forms. It's also not often visible at surface level. 

 

How to connect with Amy: 

https://www.amyebutcher.com

https://www.amazon.com/Mothertrucker-Finding-Loneliest-Road-America-ebook/dp/B08WWPZ85M/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?keywords=mother+trucker&qid=1638111372&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUE4M0pGN0xaMzc0UjMmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTAyMDMxNzNXSlhTWUgyM1RGMzkmZW5jcnlwdGVkQWRJZD1BMDYyMDY1NTJPTldZVUYyVVdFN1Imd2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGYmYWN0aW9uPWNsaWNrUmVkaXJlY3QmZG9Ob3RMb2dDbGljaz10cnVl

 

 

You Are Not Your Trauma with Trauma Queen Christy

In this episode I talk with Behavioral Health Therapist from Oregon, Christy Collins, aka Trauma Queen Christy, about how life can be interesting yet difficult. I know everything happens for a reason, but your childhood can seriously mold the person you were called to be. We talk about the different kinds of therapy, how trauma can impact each person differently, why everyone needs therapy, and how to use your story to change the lives of others. This is such a great interview. I hope you love our conversation as much as I did!

 

Connect: @trauma.queen.christy

www.thetraumaqueenchristy.com 

Books discussed:

https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=Cj0KCQiA-K2MBhC-ARIsAMtLKRszMx8AY26UENXcbjnc3CgzWvMmYDiM8K75EDOsc1niefP4qkdWniIaAmHwEALw_wcB&hvadid=241620573485&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9053228&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=12366383304768172651&hvtargid=kwd-52082394281&hydadcr=15524_10340834&keywords the+body+keeps+the+score&qid=1636716863&sr=8-1

 

https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=asc_df_1585429139/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312403172530&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=10013280271402784708&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9053228&hvtargid=pla-436644332348&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=60300244057&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312403172530&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=10013280271402784708&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9053228&hvtargid=pla-436644332348  

I‘m Bacckkkkkkk

If you don't follow me on social media, I went on a retreat at the beginning of this month to be with the Lord. I decided to do a 30 day detox upon return. I'm alive and well friends. This season will strictly be for interviews and I'll only be dropping on a monthly basis. ARE YOU READY!!??!?!

I also believe I misspoke, the correct term is missing white woman syndrome not missing person*

Episode inspiration: Gabby Petito and Aretha Franklin  

 

Music: Falling by Nagoyaslim

Season Finale: Sierra Fully Unraveled

What has unraveled in my life over the past year is almost indescribable. I should probably be the most bitter, most angry, most depressed human being out there right now. But I AM NOT. Here's what I've been holding back. I'm telling you, you never know what someone is going through or what they've been through. I somehow managed to make it out the other side. For that, I am forever grateful. I hope this gives you a true understanding of what it's like to self heal, and at the very least inspire you to keep going.

Stay in touch!

IG @sierraunraveledpodcast @greeneyedcurlyq

Email  sierra.ortiz10@gmail.com

 

See you later gators!

Resources

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Articles: 

 

https://www.familyjusticecenter.org/commentary-domestic-violence-how-trauma-impacts-the-brain-and-behavior/

 

https://www.verywellmind.com/financial-abuse-4155224 

 

https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-deleterious-effects-of-child-abuse/#:~:text=The%20consequence%20is%20that%20many,depression%2C%20anxiety%20and%20marital%20problems. 

 

https://aifs.gov.au/cfca/publications/effects-child-abuse-and-neglect-adult-survivors 

 

Videos:

 

https://coercivecontrolcollective.org/news/2018/3/12/the-power-and-control-wheel-1 

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5609_5FRjhY

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VB9-4kELT2k